How do you prepare for the new year.

I’ve talked to people who have elaborate resolutions and plans and take the time to do a lot of organizational work, others are sick of to do lists and let the new year ring in as is.

Adding to the choices and preparation, is the idea of preparing one’s attitude by simply, softening. Softening is an internal skill, it’s the ability to be receptive, to  receive in the new year.

Instead of feeling stressed when evaluating the past year and planning for the new year (I can’t be the only person who feels stress at this process) how about opening to the process of “allowing and receiving.”   Creating a stress-less manner to review and enter.

Being in a place of “receiving” is a way to pay attention using a lens of compassion.  Instead of judging (the shadow side of compassion) this process comes from the inside out.  It affects your persona… you know when you meet someone and they seem to have a quiet confidence, an attractive attitude.  Life seems like it is flowing a bit easier.  This ‘stance’ actually lets you take in and process more information, particularly difficult information.  Putting you in a better place to take action and make choices.

  • We can choose to move elegantly into a place where we feel in control but don’t need to be controlling.
  • We can be eager to ‘get on with things’ and yet feel repose, calm and open to receive.
  • It’s noticing your energy, physical and psychic, and sensing if you are in a mode that is letting you let-in info, or, if you are in a deflecting mode (thus pushing aside potential opportunities.)  Focusing skills are a great tool to use here!

So whether you are running around, or going leisurely into the new year, I invite you to hold yourself with a  “softer, receiving” expression so that you may feel primed for all the good for you in the new year!


Bonus:  Aromatherapy Recipe

Brighten The Mood With Orange & Clove

I also wanted to share with you a quick recipe for creating a cozy, positive environment using aromatherapy (I love aromatherapy.)   Our nose is a quick portal to our physical emotions, so aromatherapy is an easy non-intrusive tool.

Orange with cloveThe appeal of the familiar and lively scent of orange makes it one of the world’s most popular scents.

The scent of orange or orange essential oil adds an uplifting quality to blends and combines especially well with lavender, rose, and spices oils like clove bud.

Aromatherapy Benefits of Orange:

  • Refreshing
  • Uplifting
  • Cheering
  • Fights Depression & Winter Blues
  • It’s the scent of yes!

Another favorite scent around the holiday time is the scent of clove, which pairs beautifully with orange.  Clove bud adds warmth and a comforting affect.

Aromatherapy Benefits of Clove:

  • Warming
  • Anti-microbial
  • Sense-enlivening
  • Comforting


Here is the recipe,  easy to use at home, a fun project with the kids, or a nice quiet moment for yourself.


  • 4 cups water
  • 1 orange (sliced)
  • 1/4 cup whole cloves
  • 1 1/2 teaspoon orange essential oil
  • 1 1/2 clove bud essential oil



Place orange slices and cloves in a pan and simmer water  Add orange & clove essential oils to create a comforting homespun atmosphere.  TIP: add more water as needced as it evaporates.   This recipe comes from Rose Cole.