This special post is part of a blog book tour series with creativity and success coach, Gail McMeekin, who has just released “The 12 Secrets of Highly Creative Women, Journal” to complement her best selling book of the same name.
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I’ve had the pleasure of speaking with Gail two years ago as I was exploring my own creative endeavors. Like me, Gail has a background in counseling and human resources. She was warm, on-point and generous with her information, and, I am pleased to be able to share some of her ideas with you. I’ve selected a sampling from Week Nine: Secret 9, Transcending Rejections and Roadblocks.
ONE OF THE secrets of success is confronting adversity and transforming it into your next steps for progress. Too many women take one or two hits and freeze, unable to recover and forge ahead. When we are doing creative work, rejections and roadblocks are part of the program. Unfortunately, not everyone will like and “get” you and your work. It’s a diverse world out there- we need to find the people whom we want to share both our creations and our personal selves with. Where are your like-minded others who share the same values and interests as you do? We all have to find these folks, our special audience, and it’s not meant to be everyone.
When we receive a rejection of our work or hit a roadblock, we have some choices to make. I know, as a writer, that some of the rejection letters I have gotten have had an interesting point or two that I incorporated into my next proposal. Other times, rejection letters were boilerplate and not helpful at all-and I recognized that.
[I’m skipping down to share some of the creative exercises to transcend roadblocks. The Journal leans towards inquiry and action-steps, the corresponding book, in addition, shares success strategies from successful creatives.]
*Make a list of strategies that will help you to stay confident and believe in yourself if you or one of your products or services gets rejected. This can include everything from calling a colleague to doing more market research, redesigning your pitch, etc. Do you need to take a break to clear your head so that you can come back better able to find new answers? Choose the strategies that will work best for you as you ponder a new plan.
*If you or your work gets rejected, how do you deal with your feelings? What kinds of conversations do you have with yourself about the value of you and your work? Did you do your very best, or could you have done better? If you did not embrace excellence, thank the person who rejected you and go out and create superior quality. If you did your best, behave lovingly toward yourself and trust that there is something better in store for you. Reaffirm your value and the purpose of what you are offering. Choose some kind of releasing technique like visualization, expressive art, kick-boxing, or writing to get those feelings out so that you can heal and think clearly again. Feelings of rejection need to be processed quickly so that you can get back into action!
There are many more processes and exercises in Gail’s book! You can follow her blog book tour by visiting Deborah Knox’s site, or , Janet Connor. Receive more info on Gail’s site, creativesuccess.com. Her books are also available through Barnes and Noble and Amazon.com.
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