“The fact is,” said Rabbit, “we’ve missed our way somehow.” They were having a rest in a small sand-pit on the top of the Forest. Pooh was getting rather tired of that sand-pit, and suspected it of following them about because, whichever direction they started in, they always ended up at it, and each time, as it came through the mist at them, Rabbit said triumphantly, “Now I know where we are!” (The Tao of Pooh, Benjamin Hoff)
How many times is one faced with “this again feeling” when going through transition. The in-between ground where the next door doesn’t seem to be revealing itself.
A few coaching thoughts: have someone and/or someplace to share your true (warts and all) feelings. Whether verbally or journaling, the act of releasing and being heard is healing. Often it’s own path to transmuting those difficult places into possibilities. Being told, just let it go, when the raw feelings are right there, is not always helpful. Be respectful of your own needs.
Or, Letting it go. When I reflect on the Pooh statement, I am reminded that circumstances are often, not exactly the same. We are different. It’s not unusual for “something to come up again and again.” Look for the differences. Wisdom gained from prior experiences, life education, a more diverse spectrum of thoughts and feelings. Do you acknowledge what you have gained from the totality of your experiences? Are you a different person from the last time this transition or obstacle presented itself?
I’ve read that this month of Sagittarius is the month of miracles! New life can come as we shift. Do you have a saying that helps keep you centered, here is one I like “empowered by more than I can see.” Or use Pooh’s, upon waking up in the morning, “what’s for breakfast?”